Finding out you’re going to become a Mum is a very exciting occasion and can also be very nerve-racking. All these changes your body will have to endure while growing a little human inside of you – the stretchmarks, changes to your boobs, raging hormones, and putting on weight.
Let’s face it, after having a baby our bodies aren’t ever going to be the same.
I was a really slim build before I got pregnant with Faith, then after having another 3 babies, it certainly changed my body image completely from how it used to be (I went from a size 6 to a size 10).
I must admit I love having bigger boobs now because of breastfeeding!
Learning To Love My New Body
It took me a while to learn to love my new body image. I didn’t like to look at myself in the mirror naked because I honestly felt ugly. I had a baby belly.
I had so many stretch marks all over my stomach. It made me feel so unattractive even though in the back of my mind I knew it had to be done in order to make my 4 beautiful babies.
I’m sure some of you may relate to this uncomfortable feeling after having children of your own, but i’ve found a few things helped me learn to love myself again, besides obviously having bigger boobs of course.
I spoke to Liam about how I was feeling. I knew he loved me but my body had changed since I met him over 3 years ago, and I was honestly worried he wouldn’t find me attractive anymore.
Speaking to him however, helped. He told me how beautiful I was just the way I am. It took me a while to believe this, but he also assisted me in gaining the confidence to really look at myself in the mirror, despite how uncomfortable I felt doing it.
I pushed myself for 5 minutes a day, whilst in my mind naming what I’d liked or even loved about my body. Being pushed out of my comfort zone made me feel that little bit better about myself everyday. Small but progressive steps.
Feeling Comfortable Enough To Have Sex After A Baby
I’ve seen many people discussing this topic on social media lately, expressing their struggle to love their body enough in order to feel comfortable in the bedroom with their partners.
Remember YOU are STILL YOU despite the extra weight you may have gained or the extra wrinkly bits! That same man who fell in love with you before you had children still loves you after having them, if not more for having his babies!
Getting Through Your Insecurities
I thought I would share a few tips that had helped me get through my own insecurities after having my babies.
- Communication with your spouse is important! He may be able to abolish those negative thoughts you may be having about yourself.
- Wear something pretty even if it makes you feel uncomfortable. Try to push yourself to wear something nice, and it will make you feel ten times better.
- Stand in the mirror. Really look at yourself – every detail and note down the things you love about your body. Try not to focus on the things you don’t like, positivity is key at this stage!
- If you’re having a bad day and don’t feel particularly pretty, try putting on some makeup – it might just make you feel that little bit better. It’s done exactly that when i’m having one of those unpleasant days.
- More importantly look at those beautiful children of yours. Your body formed them. You created a miracle, and without those extra nobbly bits you have now, you wouldn’t be the amazing Mum you are today!
- If it helps work on what you don’t like about yourself. I’ve lost my bum since having Kiiara and i’ve recently set apart some time to do some squats everyday to get it back (I’m hoping it works).
- Most of all, be proud of yourself. You made a beautiful child who looks up to you. Nothing is more important than that!
Remember you are a beautiful woman no matter what size or shape you are. You are unique and if you believe that yourselves, you’ll feel on top of the world!
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