I want to do that, but I simply have no time for it.
I want to do that, but I simply can’t do it.
I want to do that, but I’m simply too anxious for it.
I want to do that, but it’s taking too long.
I want to do that, but I don’t have the skills for it.
I want to do that, but I’m afraid of what others will think of me.
I want to do that, but I’ll look silly doing it.
I watched a video on YouTube the other day about Millennials – why they are the way they are- self interested, lazy, undisciplined, ‘entitled’ and unfocused. It was very fascinating and insightful as to what has caused millennials to become so dependent on other people, increasingly anxious and depressed, and losing sociability with their peers. If you wish to view the video yourself, you can watch it here!
A Millennial is a person who was born in the 1980’s or the early 1990’s as explained by the Cambridge Dictionary
As a millennial myself, I can agree with most of what was being said. Reliance on technology has become an addiction and it slowly draws away time from more important things, such as my family, work, the opportunity to socialise in person with friends, and improving self knowledge by reading more.
I don’t want to feel anxious over talking to someone new.
I don’t want to be afraid to do something I want to do.
I don’t want to waste time during the day when I could be doing something I love doing.
This is why I am reprogramming my mindset – the way I do things, the way I think, the way I discipline myself.
I’ve found social media to be a distraction. I could spend most of my time on it. It draws me in and once i’m on it, i’m hooked. You could even suggest it’s a time machine because one minute on it will jet you off into the future, hours later.
This isn’t productive. That time spent on social media could allow me to spend more time with the kids, go out with friends, enjoy reading a lengthy book and so on. I’m not saying I want to avoid going on it completely – it’s nice to get updated about what’s happening around the world, but just to moderate my time more efficiently on it. As he explains in the video, it’s all about balance – it’s okay to spend time doing something, but too much of it can be disruptive.
We seek to be acknowledged. We seek to be listened to. We seek to follow instructions. But that doesn’t help us when we want to do things ourselves. We need to be able to do things on our own, without needing someones elses instructions. We should be able to figure stuff out on our own. The fact that this is happening, is a big problem. It’s no fault of our own.
As a parent, i’m lucky enough to have witnessed great parenting and so I know generally how to parent well and do things for the kids that are the ‘right’ things to do. Without guidance and without witnessing others, I may not have been as confident as I am now – I can’t imagine how i’d deal with the kids if it wasn’t for my past experiences.
I’ve seen people, parents included on their phones walking about with their eyes glued to their screens. Some even do it at school when they go to pick up their kids. This isn’t right or healthy to be perfectly honest. When you pick up your kids from school, there’s no need to be on Facebook chatting to someone who isn’t even there – you should be focussed on picking your children up – they demand your attention. Whoever you are talking to or whatever you are doing on your phone, are they or is it really more important than your own children? Think about that for a second.
Without changing the way we do things, we are continuously going to go in the same direction. We are still going to become anxious around new people, we are still going to be afraid of trying something new, we are still not going to have enough time to do whatever it is we want to do. That is unless we cut out bad temptations and learn to discipline ourselves out of our rut. Think on it.
Again if you wish to watch the video, you can find it here.
P.S. For all you that have watched the video, I bought an alarm clock! (Told you i’m serious about it!)
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