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Allowing Your Child to Learn at Their Own Pace

As a parent you tend to read many books and articles, and even get given advice about what your child should be achieving at a certain age, beginning from when they were babies.

This includes that they should be rolling by 6 months at least, sitting up unaided by 9 months, walking by at least 14 months old, and saying 50 words or more by the age of 2.

I understand that these are basic guidelines which help you to recognise whether your child is meeting their acquired milestones for their age group but I also believe that it may put a lot of extra pressure and worry on parents if their children don’t meet their textbook milestones.

Being a Mum of four, i’ve noticed that all my children are different and they met their milestones all at different times. I wouldn’t say I worried too much about it, I just thought they would learn what they needed to at their own paces.

Faith had a good vocabulary by 2 and a half years old and she was walking by 14 months old.

Wyatt walked by 10 months old but didn’t speak until he was 2 and a half years old, and he only said the bare minimum.

If i’m honest I didn’t notice his special needs as much at this age. I just thought it was just Wyatt being Wyatt (and as he’s my only boy, I didn’t really have anyone else to compare him to at the time). I’ve only seemed to have noticed it more as he’s gotten older.

Aurora started walking by 13 months old and said a lot of words by 1 and a half. She is quite ahead in her speech for her age. She definitely amazes me with what she says sometimes. I forget that she’s only just turned 2. She spoke better than what Faith did at 2 and a half. I think it helps having constant engagement with her, teaching her new things and being around her all of the time.

I’m still waiting to see whether Kiiara will meet her milestones by a certain age. She can’t sit up unaided yet but she can say “Hiya” and “Dada” at 7 months old.

My point in this post is that all children are different. They will all learn at their own paces. We shouldn’t be made to feel worried just because it says that they should be doing this and that at a certain point in their early lives.

Just remember it’s just a textbook guideline that’s been put in place. I have noticed some time ago that some people liked to compare with other parents what their children could do and like to express how the other said child should be doing the same by that time.

Your children are unique. They will do things in their own time and when they’re good and ready, and when they achieve that milestone, even if it’s a little later or earlier than other children, it will be nothing short of a very proud moment!

As parents we should support each other and not bring each other down. Everybody’s children are special and we all do our best for them.

This is just a post to shout-out WELL DONE to all the parents out there! You’re all doing a fantastic job! It’s not easy sometimes but it’s definitely worth it in the end.

 

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-Zoe

 

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