An Unexpected & Alarming Incident

There had been something happen on the way to school this morning, involving a lot of police, the fire services and an ambulance. Find out what happened and more here!

It was a typical morning. We made our way to get the children to school. It isn’t much of a walk – roughly about 10 minutes each way. When we made our way down towards the school, the road was cordoned off and there was a big police presence with armoured police at the ready.

Later on fire services and an ambulance turned up. Traffic had been diverted and we weren’t allowed to cross over the road to get the children to the school.

We got sent in a different direction which took us the long way round. We didn’t have a clue what was going on. It’s not something that usually happens where we live, let alone right near a school. The teachers made sure they got the children into school as quickly as they could to keep them safe because the police were concerned that the suspect might attempt to escape and weren’t sure what direction he would have thought to have run in.

I overheard one of the Mums speaking to a teacher about what happened. I then went and asked her myself. Apparently there was a man with a firearm having a standoff with the police. He barricaded himself inside the building.

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At around 12pm we got a text from the school saying that the incident had been averted and the man had been arrested for affray.

Rumours around the school uttered the man had explosives in the building as well as a firearm. He was also apparently a paedophile (although a serious matter, I don’t think that had anything to do with what had been going on).

It’s honestly scary to think that all this was going on right near where my children go to school!

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When we lived in Liverpool there always seemed to be gun and knife crime occurring near enough everyday and I must admit it wasn’t a place I wanted to raise the children in. It’s made me realise though no matter where you live, there is always going to be a risk of danger around.

Our home town where we live now is more or less a nice place to live and I wouldn’t say that it’s a place where I feel unsafe, unlike when we lived in Liverpool.

It worries me though as in the UK, it’s illegal to own a firearm so it makes me wonder where he managed to obtain one from.

I’m glad it’s finally been sorted and the children are all safe in school. Back to normality on the school run this afternoon. I may just be a little bit more vigilant and make sure they stay close by.

As a parent you would do anything to keep your children safe.

 

This is quite a sensitive subject to be talking about, but have you ever been in a similar situation where something like this has occurred around a school? What measures would you take to protect your children?

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Feeling Fulfilment – Frustrations, Sacrifices & Patience

Ever felt like there’s something missing? Like you’re missing out on your full potential or something you’ve wanted to do your entire life but haven’t? Going after these missing pieces enables you to feel fulfilment. I talk about this today. Read more about it here!

Have you ever felt a lack of fulfilment, like you’ve got a lot to be thankful for in your life but you have that niggling feeling that your missing something? That something you need in order to be able to actually say “yes i’ve got it all”.

We as humans always thrive to better ourselves or feel the need to try something new to feel a sense of success. Whether that be starting a new career, going back to education, just taking up a new hobby, or finally going on your first holiday abroad.

I’ve felt like this a few times myself where even though i’m happy with my relationship and my children, I also feel that there’s more to me than just being a Mum. It’s also all i’ve ever known since 18 years of age. It’s hard being taken out of my comfort zone and even thinking about all the things I would like to do as a person – it makes me feel nervous.

Before I had the children I went to college and studied Health and Social care NVQ Level 2 and did work experience at a care home for the disabled. After I passed my course I was offered a job at the place I had been doing work experience for and I loved it!

I then fell pregnant with Faith so my career got put on hold and I became a stay-at-home Mum instead. With this being said it was what I had become accustomed to looking after my daughter and now my other three children as well.

I did go to college again in the meantime before Aurora was born to study a Level 1 Teaching Assistant course which I passed, but needed to do Level 2 to completely qualify in order to get a job working with children.

I must admit I enjoy being with my babies and I wouldn’t want anybody else to raise them because quite frankly they’re only little once, but my point being i’ve got so much more that I want to do and things that I enjoy doing that I don’t get much time to do anymore.

My dream career would be to work with children with disabilities or in a playgroup setting. As much as I enjoyed doing work experience in a school as a TA, i’m not quite sure whether it’s something I really want to do for the rest of my life. I’m quite on the fence about it at the moment.

I would also like to learn to drive. I did do lessons around 4 years ago now. I passed my theory but failed my driving test twice. Once due to making one mistake and the second time because I became nervous after failing the first time. I couldn’t quite afford to carry on doing it, so I had to stop doing my lessons and my theory certificate eventually expired. If I wanted to begin driving again, I would have to resit the theory too (the certificate only allows for 2 years in order to complete your practical test). Hopefully I will take it up again eventually.

I’ve also never been abroad. My Dad has always been a worrier (That’s probably where I get it from), so he didn’t like to travel far or let us go too far either.

I would eventually love to take the children on a family vacation somewhere hot (I have a fear of heights so it should be fun flying on an aeroplane, especially with 4 children in tow).

I also used to draw when I was younger, mostly of ‘Winnie the Pooh’. He was my childhood favourite and I enjoyed just sitting quietly and feeling accomplished after I completed my sketches. As an adult now I can’t get to that inner peace to be able to sit and draw extensively. Instead I read every night which I really enjoy doing. It’s my ‘Me’ time after having a busy day with the children.

There is many more things I could list down that I would like to do to help me feel alive and more like a person, and just help feel a sense of fulfilment but i’d be here all day if I were to continue. Not a day goes by that i’m not busy in the ‘Mini Zoo’.

I would love to hear if any of you have felt like this. Have you begun something for yourself and seen it through? Has it given you a feeling of fulfilment?

 

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Dealing with Aggressive Behaviour in Children

When your child acts up for no apparent reason, would you simply punish them for it or sit and listen to what they have to say- why they are being the way they are? I delve into questioning why kids act up unexpectedly and what you could do about it. Read all about it here!

Having a baby is an exciting time and the anticipation sets in wanting to know who these tiny little humans will become.

Watching them grow from year-to-year, our job as parents is to guide them and show them right from wrong whilst showing them they are loved too. It isn’t the easiest of tasks but we do it because we love them, but what happens when a child becomes aggressive as they grow up, targeting their parents and even teachers? What are you supposed to do then?

I firmly believe that children aren’t just naughty for no reason – like us they have reasons behind their frustrations and anger but it’s just finding the source that is difficult. Whether they will open up to you about their problem is another thing entirely.

When Faith was a couple of years younger around 6 years old, she had an aggressive phase and it was completely aimed towards me. I tried speaking to her but she would lash out and while putting her in time-out, she would hit me. I remember her hatred of me like it was just yesterday. She said some horrible things which made me cry and feel like a complete failure as a Mum.

I didn’t know what was bothering her – she just wouldn’t open up. That was until one day I was reading her a story before bed and she finally started speaking to me about what was bothering her. It turned out that she was speaking to her Nan from her biological Dads side which I forbade, and her Dad told her to keep it a secret and not to tell me.

Her Nan was also bad mouthing me to her which put a lot of stress on such a young girl. I must admit I was livid. Children don’t need to experience stress so soon in their lives – it’s not fair on them!

I told her that she can always speak to me and that she shouldn’t keep secrets. I wasn’t mad at her and I told her that her Nan wasn’t a very nice person and to ignore what she had said.

After this deep conversation she soon calmed down and didn’t lash out again and her hostility towards me just vanished. She did have her moments where she misbehaved but it was just children being children.

My point is with children, like anybody there is always a reason behind their anger and aggression.

I firmly believe that an angry child needs support and not necessarily punishment. He or she needs help. Don’t get me wrong I don’t condone children hitting parents or teachers and I could imagine how difficult it is dealing with this behaviour and how draining it can be physically and emotionally. It will also help having somebody to speak to about it because otherwise it can make you feel isolated, especially if you see other parents with children who don’t have the same problem.

I think a good tactic might be spending one-on-one time with the child doing something they enjoy doing. They may open up to you that way. It could take a few tries but maybe once a week just finding the time to spend together could be a big help in changing their behaviour or at least a step in the right direction.

It might come across as though i’d be rewarding them for their bad behaviour but that’s not what i meant at all. If there has been an incident, then by all means deal with it accordingly. I just mean that perhaps the child needs some guidance and some positive attention so they realise that THEY ARE LOVED and THEY’RE NOT BAD CHILDREN.

I understand everybody’s situation is different and i’m not an expert in this topic but i’m just speaking from experience from my daughter and what i’ve seen from a young boy that I know recently.

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Celebrating Father’s Day

It was Father’s day over the weekend here in the UK, and the first one without my Dad. Find out what we did and more here!

It was Father’s day yesterday here in the UK and the first year without my Dad.

As I was looking at cards to get Liam from the children on Saturday, I felt like I was going to cry right there and then right in the middle of the supermarket. I managed to compose myself promptly because quite frankly a woman crying in the middle of the supermarket wouldn’t have been a good look at all.

The past few years whenever it was Father’s day I would spoil my Dad by getting him the soppiest cards going, and put it this way he ended up with a lot of drinking mugs with poems on.

With not being able to do it this year I decided to focus on spoiling Liam instead. I had been thinking about my Dad all day. There’s not one day that goes by that I don’t if I’m honest but on special occasions I always seem to miss him that little bit more. I just didn’t want to spend the day upset – I wanted to celebrate Liam being a Dad and wanted to show him how much we all appreciate him for what he does.

So while we were out on Saturday I found two cards that I really liked and couldn’t choose between them, so I ended up getting both – one from Faith and Wyatt and one from Aurora and Kiiara. I also got him a ‘Mercedes Benz gift set’ and a ‘Grizzly Dad Sweet Pizza’. I was going to make him pancakes in bed too but Aurora decided to be houdini and climb out of her cot first thing yesterday morning. She spent her first night last night in her toddler bed.

It was another early morning because of this but Liam still got his pancakes after we were all up and dressed. My main focus all day was to make sure he had a great day. Plus it kept me busy which really helped not being able to see or speak to my Dad. I got all my Sunday cleaning done with the help of Lisa (Liam’s Sister). She came around to entertain the girls (Aurora was being a madam) so it was hard to get anything done. I let Liam do his own thing, something for him instead of just being a parent all the time (even though that never actually stops). You get the jist of what I mean.

We decided to get a Chinese takeaway. Seeing as how Liam usually cooks, I thought I’d be nice and let him off from cooking duty and there was no way I was cooking! I’d probably burn it knowing me. I’m so out of practice these days. We had a nice glass of red wine and relaxed for the rest of the evening before the peace was shattered by Faith and Wyatt returning from their Dads.

They weren’t that bad last night – they usually come back like bulls in a china shop. We got lucky. They were less bull and more like mellow monkeys this time.

Faith had a surprise for Liam. She made him a picture that said she loves him and ‘Happy Father’s Day’ and put 20p in it for him to put in his money jar. She’s such a cutie sometimes. She had even turned round to him and said she likes to make him happy. I’m really glad that they have such a great bond!

Over all he had a good father’s day which is exactly what I wanted. He has been my rock since I lost my own Dad and he’s great with all the kids too! He even becomes one of them at times. Plus when Mothers Day comes up it will be his turn to spoil me (wink wink). I consider that a win-win situation.

On a more serious note though, I hope all you Daddy’s out there had a great Father’s day and to the ones who’s Dad aren’t around anymore know that they are looking down on you, just like my Dad is with me.

 

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Autism & Wyatt My Wonder Boy

Wyatt has grown to be an extraordinary little lad, although as he gets older signs of autism appear clearer and clearer. Today I talk about some of the signs i’ve noticed, how I feel about it all, and what we’re doing to progress further. Read all about it here!

Being a Mum of three girls, I thought the way Wyatt was is because he’s a boy. But as he’s gotten older and i’ve compared him to other young boys his age, i’ve realised that it isn’t the reason he’s different at all.

I’ve mentioned before in one of my posts about Wyatt having learning difficulties (you can read that here) but as the years go by the way he behaves directs toward having autism. It’s not severe but it’s there all the same.

I went to his speech therapy appointment yesterday at school and spoke openly about how Wyatt is and she asked me questions like ‘Do you think he’s different to his siblings and other children? How’s his sleeping? Toileting habits?’ etc.

I had to answer honestly and said “yes he is different”.

His sleeping pattern isn’t great and with his toileting, he often forgets to flush the toilet and I have to constantly remind him to wipe and wash his hands.

With everything I told her she noted down and also advised me to go and get a doctors appointment sorted asap. She is also going to keep an eye on him and speak to the school nurse so she can give me a few pointers about dealing with his behaviour.

He’s not a naughty child but he does naughty things. He just doesn’t seem to understand what he’s doing – he’s very impulsive. As she was doing the assessment on his speech, Wyatt kept wiping his face with his hand – it’s just one of the little things he does. He will also sit and make a noise over and over again but he doesn’t seem to realise he’s doing it.

The speech therapist picked up on this and I felt a little bit of relief to know that i’m not crazy and it wasn’t just me thinking it. It might sound silly but when i’ve mentioned the things i’ve noticed before whether to a teacher or somebody else, they’d looked at me like I was crazy and it made me feel like perhaps I was being a bad mum and pointing out things that aren’t actually there at all. It could have been just me thinking there was something wrong with him.

Thinking like that made me feel like a terrible mum. It could have come across as bullying Wyatt for telling him off alot because of the way he behaved, but to be honest it’s difficult sometimes. I have to realise that Wyatt is wired differently and I have to take the time to explain why he shouldn’t have behaved that way and remember to keep my cool.

Wyatt is my pride and joy and no matter how hard things are sometimes with him I just want him to thrive and know it’s ok to be different. Do I worry about his future? Yes I do. I worry that he’s not going to be accepted. I worry he will get bullied when he gets to high school. I worry he will be led astray because he doesn’t sense danger.

Being a Mum means you’re there to protect your children to help them thrive – to be there to pick up the pieces when they need you to.

Even though my lovely little boy is different and needs extra support, he’s still my lovely little boy and I will be there to help him through the years. I wouldn’t say it’s easy because some days it’s not. I’ve cried before now, not because of frustration or even anger but because it’s hard to see him struggle. It’s hard to see him backtrack with something he’s learnt and now forgotten. It’s hard to see him break down over the tiniest of things but even with all this going on i’m grateful that he’s a happy little boy.

He’s my boy and I couldn’t be prouder and love him anymore than I do right now. We may run into some difficulties throughout the years as he grows up but we will get through it together as a family.

This is dedicated to Wyatt my wonder boy.

 

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Kiiara Says Her First Word!

When your baby finally says their first word, it’s almost unbelievable and certainly a shock. They are inevitably no longer a newborn anymore. This is what Kiiara did. Find out more about it here!

It was a normal day in the mini zoo – a rush to get to school and grumpy children finding every little thing to complain about.

I pulled myself out of bed at 7am. Wyatt was already awake watching DVDs (we’ve had to hide the Sky remote hoping that it will stop him from getting up in the middle of the night). No such luck though, as he just puts the DVD player on instead.

I did my usual morning routine but from the moment I got up I wasn’t in the best of moods. Something went wrong straight away which put me in foul mood for the rest of the day. It involved our financial situation and the amount of bills I had to pay.

The rest of the day I just couldn’t shake my mood. I felt exhausted by around 1pm and usually Aurora tends to go for her afternoon nap, which she did but Kiiara, despite rubbing her eyes, simply refused point blank to go to sleep. Instead however she had been rolling around making noises until she uttered the words “Hiya dada”.

At first we really had to listen to believe that was what she said but then she said it again.

We were over the moon. Bless her, she’s only 6 months old and she’s learnt 2 words already! I still could have had my nap though but she finally decided to nod off at quarter to three which meant we had to go and pick Faith and Wyatt up from school. Mummys naps just don’t happen. It just meant I had to survive on my afternoon coffee instead.

The rest of the day was quite normal really. Faith and Wyatt ended up arguing which led to me shouting. Aurora seemed to get second wind and act like she had been on a sugar rush. She ran up and down the hallway (almost like a daily workout for her) which always puts me on high alert because she ran face first into the door the other day and ended up with a bump on her head.

She still got up and continued to do it. Kids ayy! They seem to think they are invincible but in the process they are giving Mummy panic attacks at the same time.

My Mum and Sister came over for a visit yesterday. My sister is 7 years younger than me and a complete phone addict, so we decided to have a bit of fun and take some photos with snapchat filters on. I’ve got to the age where it all seems alien to me. I remember the days when I was a whizz with the older model phones but now I don’t have a clue how to work them very well – things have definitely changed over the years.

I’ve finally braved it and starting the weaning process with Kiiara. She’s still mostly breastfed but i’ve started introducing smooth baby puree. As much as it makes me sad i’ve got to realise I can’t keep her a baby for much longer especially with her chatting away now.

After such a stressful morning the rest of the evening went quite smoothly which i’m grateful for. Back to the grind again today though. I’ve had an appointment with Wyatts speech and language therapist this morning too. There’s never one day that goes by that I  don’t feel like i’m on overdrive. It’s all part of being a Mummy I guess.

 

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The Difference Between Men & Women and How We Think.

Mens and womens thoughts processes tend to vary quite a bit. Its when we try to interpret the opposite sex that mixed messages can result in problems. I talk about this and more in this post. Check it out here!

Have you ever looked at your spouse and wondered what they are thinking even if you have open conversations with them everyday?

Men and women think differently – it’s just how our brains are wired. Us women may think that men are generally down-right insensitive but men could also think just the same about us.

I’ve read an article recently about how we as woman may perceive men’s behaviour a certain way and I think we worry much more in relationships.

For example: Men usually need space occasionally, not to distance themselves from us but to get back their own sense of self being. When this happens however some women usually worry or panic thinking they have done something wrong because usually if a woman needs space, then there tends to be something bothering them.

Men think differently to the way women think. I’m quite guilty of this one myself. I guess i’m quite a sensitive person really. If Liam is quiet or doing his own thing I sometimes worry that i’ve upset him and just need that reassurance to know that we are ok.

On this article i’ve also read that woman usually take over with things.

For example: The cleaning, cooking, and the taking care of the kids.

We then tend to get frustrated or angry not having that help off our spouses. Perhaps we need to give men the chance to help out because men feel satisfaction by making their partners happy (For most cases).

I’m quite lucky in that way as Liam helps me out and even cooks the dinner every night. I used to enjoy cooking but i’m busy with other things and don’t really enjoy it as much as I used to.

There is a lot of differences between how women and men work. Men like to be problem solvers and think logically but sometimes us woman are run by our hearts instead of our heads which can lead us to be more emotionally decisive than men. That doesn’t mean men are not emotional either – they have feelings too like the love they have for their children.

The way Liam is with the children just makes me fall in love with him more everyday. He’s a complete natural with them all. There’s also the way he is with me sometimes. I have my ups and down days and he’s always there if I need him, even if it’s just for a cuddle to make me feel better. I can even rant at him about things that have annoyed me and he will simply listen to me.

So after I read this article it made me realise that yes, men and women are different. We do think differently but we all have deep emotions. Things affect us all the same. We all get angry, we all get upset and we all have love to give whether we’re a different sex or not.

So maybe the article is correct in some form but I believe not so much in others.

 

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How to be a Real and True Friend

What determines a true friend? Are they always there for you when you need them most? I delve into friendship and why it’s better to have a smaller circle of friends than a larger one. Read more about it here!

As human beings we enjoy being able to interact with others whether that be a group of complete strangers we may speak to about our day, old classmates passing by in the street that we catch up with, or even people we call our friends.

Being able to have that interaction helps us feel like we have a connection with the world – making us feel as though we are not alone and bringing joy to our lives as we have a laugh with another person. It certainly means something to us.

You see just like family, I think friends are important too but it’s finding the right people to be friends with that’s critical.

What I mean by this is that some people aren’t good for us, perhaps leading us to do things we wouldn’t normally do but because you want to be able to fit in with that group, we do it anyway. Then you have the friends that talk behind your back – only talk to you when they want something who aren’t really true friends at all.

As children we get put into a classroom with a group of children and usually would get along with them all but as we grow our friendships change and we make friends with other people. Usually by the time we get to high school or college those friends we used to hang around with are now completely different people and rarely stay in contact at all.

How do we choose our friendships as we grow?

What makes us drift apart as we grow older?

How do we learn who to trust and who not to?

Being a true friend to somebody means there are things you should and shouldn’t do. Loyalty and trust is an important part of any friendship and of course honesty is a good factor too.

I’ve learnt when it comes to friendship that the most important things are to always be there for them if they need you, even if it’s just them ranting about how bad their day has been.

Be there for them in their darkest hours.

And know when to be serious and when to be goofy.

Also look out for jealousy and two-facedness. This is how you know that this person is probably not the best person to confide in about your problems.

As an adult i’ve noticed how easily I could say the many friends I have, which technically I do – Facebook is a wonderful thing but could I say all those people actually know me and I mean truly know me?

That would be NO, not at all.

Could I turn around and say I could open up to the people I have on Facebook? The answer to that is also NO.

After all they are more like acquaintances – people I speak to but who i’m not solely close to. If i’m honest, looking at it respectively, I wouldn’t say I have many friends at all but i’m actually ok with that and do you know why that is? Because it’s better to have a few friends who you can trust completely and allow for balancing your time well, than a massive group of ‘friends’ who you can’t balance your time between who you may not be able to rely on when it calls for it.

I have found something out lately though. Even the closest of friends I have don’t really seem to bother anymore. It maybe because they are doing it to avoid me or perhaps they just simply have things going on with their own lives at the moment and just don’t have the time.

Either way, i’ve learnt to keep my circle of friends small and know that sometimes friends occasionally outgrow each other over the years just like during and after high school.

It’s just the way of life and how we all grow as people. We make new friends along the way and if you’re lucky, some of the old friends remain with you for a lifetime.

Being a true friend is important to me just like my family are. I believe if you are friends with somebody and they tell you a secret for only you to know, you shouldn’t betray their trust and share it with others.

Trust, honesty, loyalty and communication is very important to me and I think as long as you have these traits in a relationship, then you will thrive.

 

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The Rash Backlash

Kiiara had another lot of injections last week, but something doesn’t seem right with her. Find out what’s been going on and more here!

It’s Monday again and that lovely relaxing weekend that I planned didn’t actually go to plan at all.

I didn’t get my bubble bath but instead a sleepless night and a very clingy, upset poorly baby, but I did find out what was stopping me from switching off (If you haven’t read last weeks post, you can check it out here).

I’ve mentioned before that i’ve always been an over-thinker and i’ve got a habit of worrying what i’ve got to do all week instead of taking things one step at a time. I just end up thinking about everything and putting more stress on myself.

After I spoke to Liam, he suggested I write things down for the days I have to do them on and tick them off as I go along. A simple strategy really but I think it’s one that might actually work. I haven’t tried it just yet but i’m planning on doing it today and hopefully this will help me get my tranquility back.

I planned to have a pamper session on the weekend – bubble bath, painting my nails etc but instead I had to try and settle a very upset Kiiara. She had her immunisations on Friday – 3 jabs in total. The poor girl screamed the place down but she soon calmed down until it hit bedtime. She had a high temperature and was very restless. Even if you touched her slightly she would scream. It was heartbreaking to see.

As you could imagine Liam and I didn’t get much sleep that night. With every movement she made she would scream in pain. She wasn’t drinking much either but I knew that’s one of the side effects of having the jabs. We dosed her up on Calpol and we gave her lots of cuddles. The only way she would sleep was if she was lying on my chest on her belly but I didn’t mind as it seemed to help her.

It has taken 2 days but she seems to be a little better in herself now. She’s not screaming high pitched anymore, but I have noticed she has come up in a rash all over her face and body. This has never happened with the other children so of course i’m a little concerned incase she has had an allergic reaction to having them. She was perfectly fine before her injections though.

Liam and I noticed her rash had gotten much worse since last night so we called the doctors to get an emergency appointment. I explained to the receptionist what seems to be happening with Kiiara and just got told that there weren’t any appointments for today, despite supposedly being an emergency appointment line. They just said I will get a call back from the doctor later.

I don’t understand how a doctor is meant to diagnose her rash if he/she cannot see what the rash looks like. As you could imagine I wasn’t amused not being able to get her checked out but all we can do for now is to keep an eye on her and then see what the doctor says. If it gets any worse, I think it will have to be a hospital visit.

Wish me luck ladies! Today is going to be a very long day. I can feel it in my bones.

 

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Learning How To Switch Off

With the continuous 24/7 job position of looking after the kids, it’s quite difficult to switch off. I’m having that problem at the moment. Read more about it here!

Do you remember the days where you could relax and I mean truly relax, and just switch off from your thoughts before you had children, or a running list of things you had to do that instead clouded your mind?

You see I’ve had great difficulty with this at the moment. My brain just won’t switch off and it’s frustrating and damn right annoying to say the least.

I remember not that long ago where I could just relax after the children were in bed and I could be myself for a little while but I honestly don’t know what has gotten into me lately. After I’ve done everything i’ve needed to do throughout the day and all the children are tucked up tight, I go to bed and read for a little while but I can’t seem to switch off. It’s like my mind is on overdrive and I always seem to be worrying or thinking about things I need to do the following day.

I really miss being able to just be myself for a while and enjoy some couple time with my favourite person, but it’s hard and if i’m honest I don’t have a clue how to get back to that place of tranquillity I used to have.

As much as I love being a Mother and know how lucky I am to have four beautiful children, I also want to be more than just Mummy all the time. Don’t get me wrong, I know being a parent is a 24/7 job but I also want to be able to just be a couple aswell where we enjoy time just Me and him. We do watch movies together of a night time and spend time together which I obviously enjoy but I also get frustrated because even though i’m there it feels like i’m not there completely because my brain keeps wandering and running on overdrive.

As i’m sat here writing this i’m currently thinking of ways to get it back but i’m drawing up blanks. My brain only seems to work when I don’t want it to. Typical ayy.

I don’t have a clue what has caused it, whether it’s just because i’m in Mummy mode constantly or because Father’s day is coming up and it’ll be the first year without my Dad around. How do you solve it if you don’t know what’s causing it?

Could it be my subconscious telling me i’m overly stressed perhaps? I’m not sure but I miss my happy-go-lucky self. I seem to be much more serious these days.

I think I’m going to try to get my ‘mojo’ back this weekend, and even though I still have the girls I think I need to find ways to relax and do things that I enjoy, such as a bubble bath, candles and a relaxing atmosphere. It should hopefully get me back on track because feeling this way makes me miserable and distant, and I don’t like it one bit!

I think it’s time to make a change and put some time into myself and me and Liam as a couple too, even if it’s just one day a week because the last thing I want to do is lose anymore of myself and also lose us as a couple too. I think we’ve been putting too much time into other things and neglecting ourselves in the process.

Wish me luck guys! I will be able to be a great Mum as well as be my true self sometime again soon hopefully.

I would love to hear if any of you have ever had this happen to yourselves. Whether you lost the person you used to be or just find that life gets in the way because you’re on overdrive and overthink everything, and how you managed to solve it? Let us know in the comments section below!

 

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Grumpy Neighbours and a Tender Milk Vendor – Mastitis Problems

Ever had a neighbour who just doesn’t seem to want to be social? Someone who complains about the things you do to your landlord without confronting you about it first? We have. Find out about it and more here!

Have you ever moved into a property and the neighbours took a dislike to you straight away even before you’ve ever spoken to them?

Well we have that problem at the moment.

Usually every place we’ve lived in, we have gotten on with the neighbours and just kept ourselves to ourselves. Since moving into this flat we have a lady neighbour that lives next door who just doesn’t seem to like us one little bit. This occurred even before she had given us a chance to make an impression. We’ve tried talking to her, but she point blank looks at us filthily and ignores us.

I wouldn’t say we are very loud neighbours but obviously with a toddler who has tantrums now and again, and with the children misbehaving or playing around, we’re not the quietest either. In my eyes that’s just a normal household with children – you can’t always keep them quiet. I’ve learnt they don’t actually have mute buttons.

She usually avoids us at all costs but the other day she set the fire alarm off in the building and Liam went to see what was going on. She looked up at him and gave him the dirtiest look for no reason at all.

We’ve recently received a letter from the landlord, as did the other residents too saying that there is a ban on having BBQs in the backyard. This letter has never surfaced before with the other neighbours over the years and it’s only just became a problem. With us having a BBQ the other week, i’m almost certain our next door neighbour has complained about it to the landlord.

I’m waiting for her to complain about the children being too noisy next, which if i’m honest they are all usually in bed by half 7 and are up around 7 am, so there is technically nothing for her to complain about.

I think she’s just one of these people who don’t like children and prefers her peace and quiet which is fine, but she lives in the centre of town and if she had a problem with us having a BBQ, she could have just spoken to us about it instead of complaining directly to the landlord – we’re not that difficult to approach!

I may be a little crazy at times but that doesn’t come out very often. She’s just going to have to suck it up because we aren’t going anywhere!


Mastitis?


If you’ve been following us for a while now, you’d probably know that i’m still breastfeeding Kiiara. For the past 2 days however, i’ve had a very tender breast on one side. It feels like it’s bruised so at first I was thinking that Aurora may have unintentionally hit me whilst having one of her tantrums after her bath. This is where she usually goes demonic and it’s a fight just to get her pyjamas on. It’s even worse when it’s time to brush her hair and teeth!

Anyhow i’m not too sure about that anymore as I felt a lump at the side which is really tender to touch. I decided to Google ‘Mastitis’ and by the sounds of it I might have it, which means a trip to the doctor’s to get some antibiotics.

Who thought breastfeeding would cause so many problems? (not that I want to put any potential breast-feeders out there off breastfeeding -just be aware of the pros & cons).

I’ve never had any issues when breastfeeding Aurora but so far with Kiiara, I’ve had a blocked duct and now possibly mastitis.

I’m going to see how I feel in the next few days whether it eases off or it will be a trip to the GP. It’s not exactly what I need at the moment but I have to think positively. It can only get better right?

 

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Personality Traits – Unique & Predetermined?

Every child is different. What makes them different? Is is how they’ve been brought up? Or is it predetermined before they were born? I talk about this and more here!

Since Faith turned 8 the other day, it had me thinking of when she was Auroras age and how little things she did at that age shaped who she is today.

I haven’t really noticed it before but recently I found a video of when Faith was 2 and Wyatt 1. It was nice to reminisce of how little they once were but as I watched this video I noticed that Faiths and Wyatts characters had shown through even then.

The little things they did they still do now, such as when Faith was 2, she wasn’t girlie one little bit. She used to pick her nose and eat it which always made me cringe, but even to this day she still does it despite telling her it’s gross. She just giggles and does it infront of me anyway.

It was the same with Wyatt. The things he did when he was younger he also does now, such as going off on his own and using his imagination. The only difference is that he just speaks now instead of just making slight noises like when he was younger.

This had me thinking whether as adults we still have the same traits of when we were younger, or whether we have grown out of them. Are we born with our unique personalities already that shine through as we grow?

I know everybody is different but I thought that it was taught behaviour from our parents that made us who we are. It’s a factor that contributes to it as we grow, but now I believe that we were all born how we were meant to be with our own unique personalities stemming from our specific DNA and the mechanics of our brains.

You see i’ve noticed all of the children are different. They all seem to enjoy different things and as a parent you get to know your children and how different things affect them. You learn about their personalities.

It might sound silly but it amazes me how even from a baby, the personality of your child is already decided. Even as they grow and their personalities change a little, they still have those same traits they started with in the beginning.

I look at Faith and I can see myself in her when I was younger – the way she mimics me completely. I know that’s the reason I can understand her moods and frustrations, and why she acts the way she does sometimes because I was exactly the same.

It worries me a little because when I was a teen, I wasn’t the easiest teenager and if Faith’s the same as me when she becomes one, I don’t want her to get into the same mischief as I did at that age. I’m hoping that she doesn’t follow in my footsteps too much and becomes much wiser, and isn’t easily led astray.

Wyatt has more of a personality like his biological Dad. It can be frustrating sometimes as me and his Dad are complete opposites and never really got along. I love Wyatt either way – he’s my son and he’s got a little part of me too (I’m also secretly hoping he grows out of it).

I also believe this is why Faith and Wyatt don’t get along so well because they are complete opposites – one is like me and the other one is like their biological Dad.

Now Aurora’s personality is completely different to Faith, Wyatts and even Kiiara’s. She’s more like her Dad but she’s also very girlie. I’m not to sure where she gets that from. I’m not exactly a girly girl myself.

Then there is Kiiara. Shes much quieter than Aurora used to be at her age. She can be quite vocal when she wants to be but not as much as Aurora used to be. Their laughs are completely different too. I’m excited to see what Kiiara’s full personality will be like when she’s a little older and determine whether she’s anything like her sisters and brother, or she’s more like her Daddy or Mummy. Or just completely unique.

I’m not certain of the theory myself but I believe that factors of our parents shine through to us. I also believe that our personality is also set in stone from when we are conceived. It’s just who we are.

I’d love to hear if there is any traits that your child has kept from a younger age that they still show now. What are those traits? Whether you still show traits of yourself when you were younger? Or you could be a completely different person now than you were when you were younger. I’d love to hear your input on my theories!

 

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Faiths Birthday Bash

It was Faith’s 8th Birthday! She had lots of presents, a lovely birthday cake and a nice meal out. Find out more about her special day here!

It was Faith’s 8th birthday yesterday. 8 years old! I don’t know where the time has gone. It makes me feel old having an 8 year old.

She woke up early and had her bedroom tidy before I even made my morning coffee. The only downfall of yesterday was that she had to spend her birthday in school. We let her open one of her presents and a card in the morning before school.

She even had a badge to wear too. When we collected her later on that day, it turned out she had a really good day. They even sang ‘Happy Birthday’ to her. She admitted of how nervous that made her feel though.

Birthdays always make days extra busy. We were to take her to Pizza Hut as a birthday treat after school, so I had to get everything done before we left. I was running around like a headless chicken to make sure everybody was ready to leave and didn’t have anything to do when I returned home besides collapse onto the bed and rest.

When we got home Faiths’ Nana and Aunties surprised her, waiting outside with a balloon and birthday cake. Faith’s face lit up. She was really overjoyed.

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We got everybody in. It was time to open her presents but Faith being Faith wanted to get changed into her dress first that she was to wear to Pizza Hut. We were all sat waiting on her – this is a regular occurrence with Faith (typical girl ayy).

She finally entered the room and opened up her presents. She was pleased with them all. Some of the faces she had pulled were hilarious. She is an oddball, bless her.

Wyatt became upset because he wanted to open some presents too. I tried explaining to him that it was Faith’s birthday and they were hers to open, which led to a huge meltdown. In the end Faith allowed Wyatt to open some. Turns out they can be nice to each other when they want to be.

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It was birthday cake time! We bought Faith a sparkler candle with the number 8. As Liam lit it, it burnt out really quickly before Faith managed to blow it out herself. I wouldn’t recommend getting the sparkler candles unless you light them in the same room as the birthday girl/ boy. She said she made her birthday wish though.

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It was time to get all the children ready to go out. They all needed to be showered, Faith wanted her hair curled, and I was preparing to add a little bit of makeup on her. We had to leave by half 5 and Liam had to do two trips in the car to get us all there.

As I took her upstairs to get her all ‘girlied’ up, the curlers just didn’t seem to want to curl her hair. We were running out of time so in the end she wore it up with the new bow she got for her birthday.

It was finally time to leave. Liam, myself, Lisa and the youngest girls went in the first car ride whilst Grandad waited behind with Faith and Wyatt. Liam came back for them.

Shockingly enough the children behaved really well when we were out. I was a little nervous about whether they would listen and behave themselves especially because they can become silly sometimes, but that came after they had a bowl of ice-cream. They turned into hyperactive guinea pigs, but by that point it was time to get the bill and leave so I couldn’t really complain.

I asked Faith whether she enjoyed her day, to which she replied “I’ve had the best birthday ever!” So we are definitely in her good books at the moment.

It will be Wyatts birthday next but I’ve still got another 5 months before I have to even think about the preparations and presents that need to be sorted.

I’m really glad she enjoyed her day – it was really nice to go out as a family and spend quality time together. I think it’s really important to make memories for the children to remember for when they grow up.

I’m definitely feeling exhausted today though!

 

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-Zoe

Learn or Fall Behind – Teaching Lower Ability Children

Are teaching methods really working for lower ability children? How do teachers deal with lower ability children? I talk about my experiences as a TA and what little things i’ve noticed. Read all about it here!

Since the children return back to school today after half term, I was thinking about how teachers manage children who are classed as ‘lower ability’ children.

Do they get extra support in order to catch up with their peers?

I’ve realised many schools are different when it comes to teaching children. When I was training as a teaching assistant, I proceeded with work experience in a school where they assigned lower ability children on a specific table where the teaching assistants could provide extra support for them during lessons.

I worked on this table with these children. I noticed how much they’d wanted to get everything right and learn, but they’d constantly needed explaining what they needed to do even after the teacher had already explained.

I worked with a little boy on this table and he needed the most support to complete his work. I usually had to go through what he thought the answers were and also used a whiteboard so that he could copy the answers down in his workbook after we had discussed the work we were doing.

It was a good school but I did notice sometimes that this child was subjected to being called ‘lazy’ and getting into trouble for not finishing his work, or just because his handwriting was sloppy. I was working in Year 3 which was for ages 7-8 year olds.

Is this acceptable for a teacher to punish a child for not being able to do their work because they don’t understand, or simply because their handwriting isn’t the neatest? I understand that teachers are there to teach our children, but what if the child is genuinely struggling but is getting labelled as ‘naughty’ and has to miss their break times because they just didn’t do their work well enough?

I honestly think this produces a negative effect on children and will have them think negatively about themselves and their abilities.

This little boy I worked with was eager to learn and you could see he was trying but he would constantly get upset because of his frustration over not being able to do what the other children could do.

I felt for this little boy. He wasn’t a naughty child. He just learnt things at his own pace like many children do. We are all wired differently and learn things at different rates. It’s just part of being who we are as human beings. We all learn differently too.

For example: Some people are visual learners. Others are auditory learners and finally there’s kinesthetic learners.

I’m not bashing at teachers because I know they work hard, but i’m just thinking perhaps they need to take a step in a child’s shoes to understand what they may be having difficulties with and not be so hard on them if they’re not at the same rate as the other children in the classroom.

Praising them for what they have done, encouraging them with positive feedback of how they could improve their work, and supporting them if they need the support helps push the child up to a similar level as the other children.

I still want to be a teaching assistant for that exact reason. I want to be able to support children who struggle and let them know that it’s ok not to understand something first time, and that it’s ok to not get things right every time – that’s the whole point of learning.

You will make mistakes but you will get there in the end. I’ve been told that Faith is behind compared to the other children in her class, but I’ve reassured her that it’s ok and she will pick it up in her own time.

When I was a child in primary school, I struggled with maths and to this day I still do but I had tried my best and had extra support with it when I was growing up. I just seem to be good at other things instead.

Did it make me feel dumb because I couldn’t understand it like other children of my age could?

YES!

I wanted to be like other children who knew their times tables off by heart but I just couldn’t get the jist of it.

I want my children to know it’s ok to struggle with maths or reading and writing, and that they shouldn’t feel bad because of it. As long as they try their bests, they will finally begin to understand it. In the end it could take weeks, month’s or even years but I don’t want them feeling like a failure because they aren’t simply able to understand it straight away.

As adults, we are there to teach our children the basics of life and the tools that they need to become who they want to be. I do not believe we are here to punish them for not being as bright as other kids in their class.

This post may come across as bashing a teacher’s priorities, but i’m really not. I’m just speaking from my experiences from what I have seen first hand whilst working in a school, and how children who need extra support instead are punished rather than helped. I believe that’s where naughty behaviour of a child can stem from sometimes – frustrations from not being listened to.

I believe children aren’t naughty for the fun of it – just children who are misunderstood and a little frustrated. Simply overwhelmed with trying to be the best they can be and try to fit in with everybody else.

 

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The Struggling Mama

I had a bad day yesterday. It was difficult to parent, and I was having enough. It doesn’t help when my own blood lie to my face either. Find out what happened and who the culprits were here!

Yesterday was a hard day to parent. Faith and Wyatt decided they just didn’t want to get on at all, not even for 5 minutes.

They were constantly arguing from the moment they got up until they went to bed. I was emotionally exhausted.

I found myself yelling all day and it’s not what I wanted to do. I wanted to enjoy my kids before they went to their Dads on the weekend. They even ended up in a full-on fight. Wyatt hit Faith, and then it ended up in a loop with Faith retaliating. Wyatt then retaliating back. I screamed at them to stop fighting but I assumed they chose to not listen as they didn’t hear a word I said.

I left them to it. If they weren’t going to listen, they had to learn the hard way. As I left them to it they must have sensed I left the room because they stopped. I think they were getting their own back on me for winding them up the other day.

As you could imagine I was overly stressed. I had so much to do but I felt like every time I did something I had to do it again – it was never ending. I ran out of nappies for Kiiara so I had to drag the kids with me to do some shopping. They thought this was a great opportunity to run around the shops. Arghh, I could have screamed!

I had to remind myself to be calm and just bloody breath. I was counting down the hours until bedtime. Aurora piped up half way through the day with tantrums. I was out numbered with grumpy, argumentative children, and I certainly felt the impact of it all.

I had to pull myself together and show the children they weren’t wearing me down even though it was difficult. I took the grumpy toddler for a nap – one down just two more to sort out.

Faith sat on the sofa watching a dvd and Wyatt went to play in his room. I finally managed to sort the housework out but all this shouting put me in a foul mood for the rest of the day.

My main issue with the children’s behaviour at the moment is the constant arguing. It’s also because Wyatt is being sneaky and continues to lie. I would much rather him own up and apologise than lie straight to my face.

I really worry about his future. He’s not a bad kid but he’s easily led and when i’ve tried to explain to him why he shouldn’t behave the way he does, he will talk about something completely different and irrelevant to what I was talking about.

I’ve had a few issues with his behaviour this morning – his usual antics of munching really early before anyone else is up. Liam found wrappers of what he had been eating and asked him about it.

He blatantly said “no”

then changed his mind and said he ‘forgotted’.

As he was sat watching cartoons we also noticed his pajama bottoms were in the corner. He had literally ripped them to pieces. They were perfectly intact when he put them on last night.

I really don’t know what causes his impulsive behaviour but I really worry incase somebody leads him astray and tells him to do something dangerous – he will end up doing it. He’s not a bad kid at all but his behaviour is very challenging at the moment. I’m hoping when he gets a bit of extra support we will be able to understand how he thinks and can finally get on his wavelength.

I feel like a terrible Mum sometimes because I tell him off alot but I just don’t know what else to do to get his behaviour back on track.

I know yesterday was just a bad day but I still feel down in the dumps today from having to be the ‘crazy yelling Mummy’. Children need discipline but I feel awful having to shout at them. I hope they realise when they’re older that I love them and that I told them off for a reason – either to keep them safe or teach them right from wrong and be respectful human beings.

Hard days like yesterday make me doubt myself as a Mother, but then I stop to think my kids love me and I them, and i’d go to the ends of the earth to protect them. After all, i’m doing my best for them, even if that means losing my cool now and again.

So this Mama is going to rock on and be the best Mum I can be for these tiny little pains in the bums.

 

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A Brave Little Girl & The Teasing Mama

Faith was a brave little girl having her ears pierced as a pre-birthday treat, although something nearly went wrong. Find out what almost went wrong and more here!

It’s half term here and the children are driving me crazy.

Faith was having a hissy fit over us not knowing where her tablet charger was. We still haven’t fully unpacked at the moment.

She shouts,

“You should have packed it!”

I reply,

“We did, that’s why we can’t find it.”

I was in a wind up mood. I thought, well if they are driving me cuckoo, it’s time for this Mama to get her own back. This was going to be fun.

Her diva attitude came out in full force. I couldn’t help but laugh. If you don’t laugh you will cry. I decided to tickle her. She wasn’t in the mood at all.

She shouted,

“Stop it”

And stropped off. I called after her.

“I love you.”

Which she replied,

“No! Don’t you dare.”

This little ladies attitude is just like mine when I was her age.

My Mum was over and she couldn’t help but laugh as she said,

“Ooo. I remember this so well, it’s like deja vu.”

Faith was also moping about having to wait to get her ears pierced. I booked the appointment for after school because I forgot that it was half term this week.

It got to lunch time and I was surprised that I made it through the morning. They certainly all kept me on my toes. When we finally sat down for lunch, Wyatt brought his toy to the table which always starts a meltdown with Aurora. She will stop eating and scream for his toy.

I removed the toy so it couldn’t cause any more trouble and Wyatt pouted at me. I broke out in song singing ‘It’s a hard knock life’ from the film ‘Annie’. I must admit he didn’t look amused, but I was having fun. Pay back time kiddies. Mwahahaha!

As it came round to Faith’s appointment, I got all 4 children ready to leave the house, then we had a knock on the door 5 minutes before we needed to leave.

Someone came to fix our intercom so Liam had to stay behind until he finished. Luckily it only took 5 minutes and he soon caught up to us. It made Faith happy because she wanted Daddy to be the one to hold her hand while she had them done.

We finally got to the salon and Faith’s nerves starting showing through. She went very quiet but retained a smile on her face. She chose her earrings and went for the red gemmed ones.

The lady prepared the gun and did her first ear. I think Faith went into shock. She said “ouch” and began to cry. She got given a lolly and soon cheered up, but then it was time for her other ear.

Faith chose to have it pierced with a needle instead of the gun (thinking it was going to hurt less). I was a slightly nervous myself at this point. I wasn’t sure whether it would be a good idea but it was Faith’s decision.

As the lady did Faiths second ear, Faith panicked and started moving around with the needle still in her ear. She was sat on Liam’s lap at this point so they we’re both trying to get her to stay still. The lady had to work quickly to get the needle out and the earring in.

I was so proud of her. I honestly thought she wouldn’t go through with it or at least after having her first one done she would refuse to have her second, but she proved me wrong.

After the initial shock of having them done, she’s really pleased with them and glad she’s got them in. She’s a little nervous about me having to clean them, but I’ve told her it’s really important that I do it otherwise she could get an infection.

She wanted to do a little video for you all about her ear piercings, so I thought i’d share it below.

Yesterday was a very amusing day.

Today though, I could have screamed. The children had been arguing and fighting, and I was so stressed out with so much to do.

To top it off, the television had no satellite signal which meant I had really moody children to contend with. I couldn’t be saved by Teletubbies until I find a way to fix it.

Wish me luck! I will survive today.

 

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The Middle Night Muncher

When your kids wake up early continually to munch on food, it begins to become a problem. I have this with Wyatt at the moment. Find out what he’s been up to and what we’re doing to stop it here!

I woke up this morning to find Wyatt sat watching cartoons. He was right next to the television looking slightly guilty over something.

I brushed it off thinking it was because he was up really early again.

I made the morning coffees and had a cigarette. Got myself dressed and sorted out the little ones. When I returned downstairs I noticed there was a fruit shoot bottle completely empty right next to the television, and some remnants of a cheese string left on the floor.

You see we have had to put a child lock on the fridge to stop the late night muncher from munching, but obviously he can now open the lock himself. He knows the rules. He has to wait until breakfast for something to eat, but Wyatt doesn’t like to wait. He loves his food. It’s the main thing he goes on about all day long. You mention it’s dinner time and he runs like his life depends on it straight to the table.

If I want him to listen, all I have to say is food and he’s there straight away. I have no clue what wakes him up in the middle of the night but he just doesn’t seem to need sleep. It’s an endless battle trying to stop him from helping himself to food and just getting him to stay in bed.

I spoke to him this morning about it and asked him whether he ate all the cheese strings out the fridge. He just looked at me and said “no”. I asked him again and he still said “no”. I told him that lying is going to get him into more trouble and that I will go and check if he has ( I already knew at this point that he had taken them).

I thought I’d give him a chance to own up.

He replied with,

I forgotted.”

I told him,

“It’s not forgetting, it’s lying!”

He’s 6 years old – he knows better. I know he has learning difficulties but he knows what he should and shouldn’t do by now. It’s been explained enough.

I must admit he’s hard work at the moment continually telling him to stop eating out the house as early as 5am every morning or even earlier sometimes. He still seems to do it, so instead we have put preventive measures in place such as moving the food higher up out of his reach and putting a child lock on the fridge. Unfortunately however this seems to have failed now because he can open it.

I’m honestly at a loss of what else I could do to stop him. I’m just hoping he starts to listen to what we are saying. The other main problem we have with him at the moment is lying. He will blatantly lie to my face and it doesn’t phase him one bit.

When I pull him up on it he says I’m bullying him and won’t listen to what i’m saying. I feel like banging my head against a wall attempting to explain how lying will get him into more trouble. Instead he could just own up to it and apologise. I’m not bullying him, i’m trying to teach him right from wrong so that he can grow up to be a respectful young man.

Parenting is really hard sometimes. Today is one of those hard days. I’ve removed dojo points from him (if you haven’t heard of the dojo point system, read about it here) but I’ve had to be the mean Mum and tell him that if his behaviour doesn’t improve, then he will be missing Pizza Hut for Faiths birthday next week and go to his Dad’s instead.

I must admit I feel guilty and horrible even suggesting it but I just don’t know what else to do that will make him realise that his behaviour is unacceptable.

 

I would love to hear if any of you have had any of the same issues with your children and how you managed to nip it in the bud. Please let us know in the comments section below!

 

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The Importance of Family

I don’t do this often enough, but just cherishing the people closest to you is something I thought i’d share today. Keep your family close and live a happy life. Read about it here!

I realised something yesterday whilst I was sat thinking randomly about things (I do this alot). I was thinking about how important family is.

I really looked at my children and my partner and even though they can drive me crazy at times, I realised just how lucky I am. You see my kids have their faults but they are just beautiful human beings in my eyes. They are the reason i’m a Mum. They look up to me and love me unconditionally, and even though they’ve drove me nutty and i’ve screamed my head off at them, they still smile at me sweetly and tell me they love me.

My partner, well he’s just another reason that I feel lucky. We got together when I was 23 (he was 22) and he’s the most kind, considerate person I know. He’s so loving towards me and the kids, and these days not a lot of men are like that anymore. He took Faith and Wyatt on as his own from such a young age and they think the world of him and even call him Daddy.

I always tell him he’s my favourite person and to be honest he is. He took the time to get to know me and he’s always there to pick me up when i’m down. He’s completely amazing in my eyes.

I’ve also got lucky with having an extended family, even though Liam and I aren’t married (yet). I’ve gained 2 new sisters, a Dad, a few nephews and a niece. They all mean the world to me.

Life at the moment seems to be good, despite it slowly approaching the anniversary of my Dad’s death. I’ve really started to appreciate the people that are important to me.

I had a girly night with Lisa (Liam’s Sister) on Sunday. I must say it was my first girly night EVER. I’ve never had one before, even as a teenager. We watched a horror film, ate some chocolate and sweets, and of course drank some wine too. I really enjoyed myself! We even had a heart-to-heart. I love this girl to bits. She’s just so easy to talk to and always helps out if I need her.

This may come across as an emotional post today but I thought i’d share my feelings and note down exactly how special these people are to me.

So this post today is dedicated to family – you know who you are! Thank you for being yourselves and being so supportive. I really appreciate every single one of you.

Hold on to your loved one’s because what i’ve realised is life is too short. You don’t know what could happen. Let them know you love them and appreciate everything they do.

Since losing my Dad, it’s changed my outlook on life completely.

Enjoy your life because you only have one chance to live it. Go out of your comfort zone even if it’s difficult to do, and just do things that make you happy! Don’t worry what others think – It’s your life, so live it your way!

Love a sentimental Mama

 

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